As we begin our journeys into the real world there is one thing we are going to have to learn to do, and that is to paddle our own canoe, be our own boss or whatever other phrases you’ve learnt. They basically all mean the same thing; that is to take care of yourself, make your own decisions and be responsible for the outcome.
I don’t have much sailing experience and most likely cannot paddle my own canoe but in the real world, I’ve gotten better at ‘paddling my own canoe’ or dealing with whatever life throws at me myself. One thing I really hate is watching people wait for someone to solve their problems for them. Now don’t get me wrong, some people actually physically cant solve some of their life problems but you need to be able to draw the line between not being able to do it and being lazy.
When you start to paddle your own canoe you start trying to solve your own problems. Instead of waiting for answers, you’re finding ways to overcome your obstacles. At times, this can become mentally and emotionally draining but the feeling of independence you gain each time can build your character and change the way people see you.
As we start making our own decisions we have to start learning how to live with the consequences of our decisions and take full responsibility for the outcome. Which in some cases can be harder than the actual decision making. If you learn from observing other peoples mistakes you’re very lucky because you’re going to avoid a lot of stressful situations. However, If you learn better by making your own mistakes, well, you’ve got a long journey ahead of you. Remember, storms make you stronger.
Those of us who are mentally preparing to start living alone are going to have to figure this part out and learn. We are going to be put in situations where we can’t send a quick DM to our best friend asking for advice or wait for someone else to answer. Not all of us are perfect and we are definitely going to make a lot of mistakes, but practice makes perfect and we’ll get there eventually. I’m a great example; I’m extremely indecisive and take forever to order something at a restaurant. I’m definitely going to be facing a lot more situations with more consequences than not having a good meal; so this is also going to be a challenge for me.
I still have many more adventures and decisions to make ahead of me; but so far, all I can say is Paddle your own canoe and be your own boss. At the end of the day, taking charge of your own life is way more beneficial than waiting around for someone else to make decisions for you.
Good luck!! I wish you all the best on your journey.
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